my wife and i have been separated for about 9 months and she says she has filed for divorce but has not served me yet. what could she possibly be considering?. what are my best chances of convincing her that it will be different since i simply did not pay enough attention to her complains and truthfully from the bottom of my heart,i deeply feel we can make it and i wish things are not this far because i believe i can now be what she needs in a marriage?